Apparently people have not been understanding my question, so I will rephrase it into a simpler from. ?

ok, first of all, do you have a trainer? with someone there to help you and coach along the way, it may make things loads easier. Secondly, have you tried side reins or draw reins? Don't just use them though, it helps to know how they work and fit. It almost sounds like you need to really get the hang of getting him on the bit. I found using side reins on this one mare helped me find the weight i needed in the bridle and the leg required to keep her in a frame. Best of luck, I hope you get the desired result!